Change is good
That’s what they say – those who are likely not in the midst of some life altering moment. Who are “they” anyway, and who asked them?!
It’s like saying that it’s good luck to get pooped on by a bird. No it’s not! They’re just trying to make you feel better because you have excrement in your hair. That’s the type of luck I can do without, thank you very much.
Change is Hard!
You’re trucking along in life, everything has its place, you know how most things work, the same 4 people like your Instagram photos. Then life throws you a random curveball like changing your Facebook feed, announcing you’re pregnant, sending a kid off to college or swapping out Dick York for Dick Sargent. Your head is suddenly spinning, you don’t know which way is up and you become known as the one who will cry at the drop of a hat. Who said change is good?
Change is Growth
The thing is, if we don’t change, how can we move on and progress in life? How will we learn and grow and expand our horizons? You’ve heard the phrase “a rolling stone gathers no moss”. Well I’m coining a new one. A stagnant dater is lonely soul. Doesn’t quite have the same ring, does it? Plus it’s really kind of sad. Hmmm. OK, I’ll keep my day job.
Think about Change
What aspect of your life has become idle in a way that is no longer giving you joy or fulfillment? Could be your hairstyle, what you eat for breakfast every day, the types of books you read, or even your dating life? What if you made an adjustment to something you have become accustomed to? How do you think that would affect your life?
Change Can be Subtle
It doesn’t have to be drastic. No need to pull a George Costanza and declare that since nothing you do is working for you, maybe doing the opposite of everything will turn your pop flies into grand slams. The problem with the big fell swoop is you won’t know which aspect of the change is actually benefitting you. It’s best to make minor adjustments and then reevaluate.
Changes to Your Dating Approach
So here’s the $64,000 question. What am I doing wrong in the dating world? I’m good looking, charming, intelligent, I’m hilarious and I can even knit hats, scarves and socks! Who wouldn’t want me? Hypothetically speaking, of course. The answer usually boils down to your goal – what is your dating objective and is every action you perform in line with this target? If the answer is no, then therein lies your problem.
Make the Change!
If your goal is to enter into a long term relationship and eventually marriage, then stop with the random hookups! Stop going on dates with people who you know will have no future where your love life is concerned. Stop swiping right, winking at and responding to every good-looking person who crosses your path. Be more mindful, more considerate, more discerning when it comes to your dating life. This is really just one small change in your mindset, but it can likely have a much larger and more positive modification on your life.
Change is Good
All we really want in life is to have a smile on our face, a warmth in our heart and a confidence that our life is moving forward in the right direction. So what if every now and then there’s a fork in the road? Just keep moving and deal with it.
After all, change is good! Right?!
About the Author: Nanci is a resident Wingwoman here at Profile Wingman, where we help people write their online dating profiles. Our #1 goal always is honesty. Watch our video, learn more about us, check out our services, and come back often for interesting blog posts. You can also follow us on Twitter and Facebook.