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Advice on Picking Up Women – a Female Perspective

how-to-pick-up-women3  Many people think picking up women is an art, but really it comes down to three very basic principles.  You see an attractive woman who interests you, no matter where you are, what situation, you’re always presented with the same pickle – what do I say  to entice her into an ongoing conversation, which will then lead to a date?   Forgo any gimmicks, tricks or fancy lines.  The solution contains something that everyone has within them.  First you need to relax, breathe – in through the nose, out through the mouth.  Remember, you actually do have the capacity to sound clever, enlightened and profound, all at once. You can do it!  Below are a few solid tips on how to pick up girls and have success.


“Yourself” is the person you are when alone or with friends and family. Around these people you can laugh at yourself, make goofy noises, dance like no one is watching.  Guess what, they are your closest comrades precisely because they know YOU.  Ideally you receive this from everyone –  people to be attracted to the person you are, not who you try or pretend to be.  This will immediately form a deeper and more truthful bondSo, this girl of your dreams, you want her to stick around, right?  To have success when picking up women, show your true colors from the beginning.   She will sense your honesty and positive, open energy and be immediately drawn in.


Imagine you are talking with someone whom you already know and feel comfortable.  Be conversational, make a joke, ask for assistance – anything to get a dialogue going.  Don’t rush things; get that image of her naked and moaning out of your mind, for now.  First things first, you want to establish a good rapport.  Just because this woman is pretty and smells nice doesn’t make her a better conversationalist than you – I guarantee you have the ability to hold up your end of the exchange with great strength and agility.  Don’t act desperate.  Females don’t respond to word tripping, mumbling or lines obviously created to pickup women.  Relax and pretend you’ve known her since kindergarten.


Be spontaneous, use the props around you, maybe tell a joke.  (You know what’s red and smells like blue paint?  Red paint.)   The best pickup ever on which I was the receiving end was at a 2,400 participant nighttime bike ride.  I was a rider, on my bicycle, helmet, headlight and all.  He was a bystander, an observer, a dude standing on the side of the road.  As I rounded the bend, I happened to make eye contact with him which inspired in me a smile.  That’s apparently all it took, he gave chase.

bicyclesThis adorable 20 something man/boy started running alongside my bicycle, talking to me. I may have slowed my pace for him a bit, I don’t recall.  I just remember being utterly charmed and flattered as this guy continued to run next to me for at least a mile, if not longer.  The unfortunate mistake he made, he didn’t ask my name or phone number.  I would have totally gone out with him – it was most romantic thing that had ever happened to me!  Maybe I should have checked the Craigslist missed connections. Oh well.  My point is, go with your gut, be silly, do something outrageous. You’ll stand out, make a lasting impression and inspire in her a desire to want to get to know you a little better. You now have the tools for picking up women with success.  Go get ’em tiger!

About the Author:  Nanci is a resident Wingwoman here at Profile Wingman, where we help people write their online dating profiles.  Our #1 goal always is honesty. Watch our video, learn more about us, check out our services, and come back often for interesting blog posts.  You can also follow us on Twitter and Facebook.

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