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Slow Down Cowboy!

shutterstock_119655796  Guys – this one is for you. SLOW DOWN!

You’re lonely, you’re bored, you’re tired of the rat race, you’re horny as hell – I get it. But when you find the woman of your dreams or even that girl in your cat naps – pump the brakes a bit. No need to blaze full speed ahead.  Slow down! You’ll scare her off!


This applies to all aspects of relationship. When first starting out – don’t call 10 times a day. Certainly don’t text all day long. This woman had a life before she met you, chances are that life is still in existence. The last thing you want is to become a nuisance. What you want is to create desire.

I’m not saying to play hard to get or even pretend to be someone you’re not, I’m just telling you to remember that, you too, had a life before you met her. Well, if you didn’t, then maybe you should create one. Nothing is sexier than an independent guy with his own set of interests and hobbies.ski

Remember the book Men are From Mars, Women are from Venus? Yeah, I didn’t read it either, but my point is – men and women are VERY different. Just because you know right away that she is THE ONE, women tend to be more pensive. They look at relationships from every angle. If you seem overly desirous, that may read desperate – not an attractive viewpoint.


I know you’re eager to please, it may have been a while since your last release, but try your best to slow down. From beginning to end, this is so very important. Slow equals sensual. Teasing is even better. This includes everything from the kissing to the removal of clothes to the actual touching.kiss

Keep in mind, just because you have pitched a tent and are ready to roast some marshmallows, the ladies need more time to arrive at camp. Your best bet is to help her relax and know you are not in a hurry. Any sort of urgency is going to give her anxiety and guess who’s faking an orgasm?

Uh huh, that’s right. Your partner wants to please you as much as you her. If she thinks you’re in a rush, she’s going to instinctively know there’s no big O coming her way any time soon. Not with that kind of pressure! So to please you and your apparent urgent time frame, she will feign rapture, while in reality, she still wants more.


Women like to be seduced. When you’re moving slower, you tend to be more careful, thoughtful, aware of yourself, your partner and your surroundings. If you slow things down, you will have more chance of success in a relationship, which leads to better sex. Better sex leads to a better relationship. See how this works? Take note. Oh, and you’re welcome.

About the Author:  Nanci is a resident Wingwoman here at Profile Wingman, where we help people write their online dating profiles.  Our #1 goal always is honesty. Watch our video, learn more about us, check out our services, and come back often for interesting blog posts.  You can also follow us on Twitter and Facebook.

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